Saturday, December 26, 2009

.....and now comes the freezing rain....

Yesterday was a great day of gifts, excellent food at Grandma and Grandpa's, and time with family. Clarissa thoroughly enjoyed her first Christmas.

Now let's rewind a couple of days. The 23rd was Uncle Don's birthday. He, and Grandma and Grandpa came over for dinner to celebrate....and Grandma even brought dinner which was wonderful.

Don got a small gift.

Then came Christmas Eve. Everyone came over again after church and we had snacks and we gathered around the tree and opened gifts. A finely decorated tree it is too.

Oh and how about the bell that we bought in China at the cloisonne factory....

On Christmas morning it was Clarissa's turn to open gifts....and she did a great job of ripping the paper off.

Then it was off to Grandma and Grandpa's for dinner. Clarissa enjoyed spending time with them, Uncle Don, Great Grandma, and Uncle Richard and Aunt France.

Now it's Boxing Day and we are getting a pile of freezing rain....a great day to stay home.

Friday, December 25, 2009

HO HO HO!!!!! Merry Christmas!!!!!

Carolyn, Clarissa, and I wish everyone a very, very Merry Christmas! It is Clarissa's first Christmas, and what a great one! She is eatin' it all up. Ripping gifts open, and having a grand ole time.

We also celebrated Uncle Don's birthday on the 23rd...Clarissa is very happy that he was able to come to town for his birthday and the holidays.

I will write more later, we are getting ready to go to Grandma and Grandpa's for Christmas dinner....and we're already running late.

You: So Rob, if you are already running late...what the heck are you doing posting???

Me: I am waiting for access to the shower, and can't do much else. K?????

(Thanks for the inspiration for that one Adrian)

More to see how much turkey I can eat and still get up afterwards!!!!

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Grandpa's Birthday, walkin' all over, first time playing in the snow, and snoozin'....

Another busy week in Clarissaville. Let's see now....what has gone on.....well firstly we celebrated Grandpa's birthday.

As you can see he's still got it...all the candles out the first shot....errrrr.....not all as in "ALLLLLLLLLL"...just all. Soooooooo how 'bout those Sens???? (he says in attempt to change the subject).

Clarissa's walking skills increase each day. Her confidence is growing and she is really getting around.

She getting around so quickly that it's tough to get a picture that's not blurry. "She's faster than the capture speed of a digital camera, she's taller that the railings on her crib, she can turn a clean room into a disaster zone in the blink of an eye, she's SUPERCLARISSA!!!!!"

But Daddy I didn't make any mess....look how cute and innocent I look....

I took Clarissa out for her first experience in the snow today!!!!! She didn't quite know what to make of it...but she didn't freak out. I think that she had fun. It was snowing at the time and she was watching it come down with a "where the heck is that coming from???" look on her face.

I've been thinking quite a bit about a comment that was made on my favourite bl.....errrr....Adrian's (or should I say Ping's) site (you didn't think that I was going to use the B word did you? Check back to my first post.). Anyhow, it was kind of a suggestion that A&R (but I owned it as applying to all of us adoptive parents) need to and as the children grow older...the loss that is involved in our adoptions and not just focus on the positives. My initial reaction was "how could someone think that we would ever forget the loss?" From my comments: I don't think that it is possible for any of us who have made the trip to China to forget the circle of impact, gains and losses, that are involved. Most times that I look at my beautiful little girl along with my thoughts of how lucky my wife and I, and her all are to be together as a true family...I also am very aware that she has a birth Mother out there somewhere. I have extreme gratitude to this person who, through God's plan, brought this special little girl....our us. I really can't say what her birth Mother is feeling, but I don't pretend for a minute that she has not experienced loss. I have no doubt that her choice was not an easy one....quite likely not "her choice". We have been home for 3 months today...I can not even fathom for a moment the thought of Clarissa not being with us. In fact, I refuse to go there.

I am also acutely aware that Clarissa has experienced more loss at a year old than many people in adulthood have. I see it in the fear in her eyes every time she realizes that she doesn't know where Mommy and Daddy are. However, the joy and happiness that I see in her when she is with us surpasses that a million times over.

After stewing on it a bit, as Clarissa's Dad I still feel exactly the same way. However, I have heard the comments about how much of a better life she has, and will have now that she is part of our family...which is absolutely true in my opinion, but at the same time at only a year old her life has seen massive upheaval more than once. Her world has been turned upside down. I mean we are great, but still. There is loss. And somewhere out there, a thirteen hour plane ride away, is a woman who carried our little girl for 9 months and gave her up on the day that she was born. We are very, very thankful to God for bringing her to us, and we could not be happier.....but there is loss.

Hmmmmm I guess still have quite a bit to say....I'd better start posting more often. I'm exhausted. Sort of like how Clarissa was today at lunchtime. This was right...and I really mean "right" after taking her last mouthful of butternut squash. I had to check to make sure that she swallowed it. All that playing in the snow I guess.....

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Let me introduce myself....

My name is Rob. I'm Clarissa's Daddy! It's been so long....thought that I'd better remind you. And you are?????

What has gone on around here over the last two weeks??????? Well for starters I have realized that time fllllllllllllies when you have a one year old running around. I have also realized that finding a few moments to post an update is quite a challenge.

The big news????? Well a certain little girl has been walking up a storm the last few days! Each day her ventures of strolling without holding on to anything get longer. Today she put around 15 steps in a row together. The look of determination on her face as she gets ready to set off in priceless.

Other big news??? Clarissa saw snow for the first time. It was quite funny as we went through our morning routine...down to the kitchen, uncover the bird, over to the patio door blinds, open them up, and.......WOW!!!!! What the heck is the white stuff all over the backyard?????

Other big news??? Uncle Don is officially coming home for Christmas....his plane ticket is booked. Clarissa will be very happy about that.

Speaking of that Clarissa is home we will have to deck out the house in Christmas decorations.....bahhh humbug!!!! :-)

Actually I can't wait buy a tree and get it all lit up and decorated for her to see. I may even buy one more than a day or two before Christmas....and it may stay up beyond the 26th......baahhhhhh humbug!!!!! :-)

We're hoping to get to the FOI Christmas party tomorrow night. It is great fun, and hopefully some of our China trip friends will be there. We'll see how things go around her tomorrow.

We were glad to see that Adrian and Roberta, and son#1 made it home safely with their adorable new family member Ping!! Sooooooooo Adrian and son#1 made it to the top of the left side of the wall huh????? Ahhhhhh I knew you could do it. Errrrrrrr.....did I mention that when I made the trek it was raining??? Just sayin'.....

I will get more up here soon.....